Terrry, you need a therapist. Depression is treatable. You won’t find a woman who just wants to cook and clean for you and have sex with you,. Women appreciate being treated well, however handsome or not you may be. If you are thinking of taking your life, please talk to a professional, that is serious. You can always hire a housekeeper, a sex worker, but what are you going to bring to the table? Having regular sex is not a substitute for having a good relationship.

I think its the Men -A -Pause . A Pause from husband and sex , possibly a breach of the marriage vows as well. Also i notice a lot of older women avoid discussing it, but there are a lot who are looking for it. Sad thing is that you find it elsewhere and no point discussing it as that will bring more grief. Just say, look dear wife, I’d better just find sex and comfort elsewhere then leave it a month and say nothing. if no discussion or other, just proceed as you have said the facts A

I think its the Men -A -Pause . A Pause from husband and sex , possibly a breach of the marriage vows as well. Also i notice a lot of older women avoid discussing it, but there are a lot who are looking for it.

Sad thing is that you find it elsewhere and no point discussing it as that will bring more grief.
Just say, look dear wife, I’d better just find sex and comfort elsewhere then leave it a month and say nothing.
if no discussion or other, just proceed as you have said the facts
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If she doesn’t, there’s nothing left to say. You might as well move out.
But if she does, she owes it to you to tell you her reasons for changing the terms of the marriage, even if it’s uncomfortable for her.
Yes, do get a counselor involved. Maybe it will be easier for her to speak frankly to a woman therapist privately before she can be honest with you.