Comments on: Ask Joan: Can’t Climax https://seniorplanet.org/articles-joan-no-climax/ Aging With Attitude Wed, 19 Jun 2024 02:10:05 +0000 hourly 1 By: Charlie https://seniorplanet.org/articles-joan-no-climax/#comment-508283 Wed, 19 Jun 2024 02:10:05 +0000 https://seniorplanet.org/?p=166704#comment-508283 In reply to Dave 85.

Dave you are an inspiration to us all. You are so right, you have to talk. In our age group, we had so many conflicting messages about sex when we were young, that it isn’t always easy to start the conversation, but once you do it makes things so much better.

]]> By: Virge https://seniorplanet.org/articles-joan-no-climax/#comment-502451 Tue, 30 Apr 2024 13:32:22 +0000 https://seniorplanet.org/?p=166704#comment-502451 In reply to Travis.

Your question has been forwarded directly to Joan; she will contact you should she decide to answer.

]]> By: Travis https://seniorplanet.org/articles-joan-no-climax/#comment-502388 Mon, 29 Apr 2024 21:36:19 +0000 https://seniorplanet.org/?p=166704#comment-502388 My wife of 50 plus years has yet to have an orgasm. I have tried all these years. Sad for her I get pleasure but now time is catching up and I am having trouble finishing wears her out. She doesn’t like toys or vibrators. We use the same positions since she has problems with her knees and legs. Mostly missionary and spoon. Tried pillow under her doesn’t help I. Any suggestions. Even when we were young I tried different things no help fo her. I go down on her to make her wet does not help. HELP

]]> By: Anne https://seniorplanet.org/articles-joan-no-climax/#comment-500877 Mon, 15 Apr 2024 23:36:45 +0000 https://seniorplanet.org/?p=166704#comment-500877 In reply to Marie Montina.

Marie- I think you need to figure out what gets you turned on. You say your partner tries his best, and he’s willing to work with you. Go for it. You’re holding back for some reason. Figure out what makes you so hot that you just can’t stand it, and you WANT to have an orgasm! If you trust him you can do this. Get your brain working on a really good fantasy. I’m 67, and I can orgasm just from my fantasies, and I have to as hubby cannot help, for various reasons.

]]> By: James https://seniorplanet.org/articles-joan-no-climax/#comment-498938 Thu, 28 Mar 2024 15:13:19 +0000 https://seniorplanet.org/?p=166704#comment-498938 My new lady friend had the same problem initially with no vaginal climax. However, using a sex toy and having anal sex at the same time did result in an orgasm. Now she has regular vaginal orgasms and occasionally she has one when we have anal sex.

]]> By: Anne https://seniorplanet.org/articles-joan-no-climax/#comment-498807 Wed, 27 Mar 2024 06:38:01 +0000 https://seniorplanet.org/?p=166704#comment-498807 In reply to Diana.

“PIV” is Penis-in-Vagina

]]> By: Marie Montina https://seniorplanet.org/articles-joan-no-climax/#comment-498590 Mon, 25 Mar 2024 07:33:52 +0000 https://seniorplanet.org/?p=166704#comment-498590 Hi, I am 64 but my friend is 76. I also have issues with climaxing. My friend tries so hard lately I feel so bad for his self esteem to the point that I have to fake my orgasm. We try new techniques I get very frustrated . My friend is on Blood pressure medications, so we don’t have a lot of sex, but we make love a lot. He tries his best. He knows all my sensitive points . He taught me how to communicate during sex to tell him what I want and how I want it. He is an excellent lover ,

]]> By: Sandra https://seniorplanet.org/articles-joan-no-climax/#comment-498478 Sat, 23 Mar 2024 21:36:01 +0000 https://seniorplanet.org/?p=166704#comment-498478 It’s great to know that I’m not the only one with this issue.
Having a place to expressive things is vital, and I’ve always appreciated that Joanne has pave the way for us shy women.

]]> By: Lorraine https://seniorplanet.org/articles-joan-no-climax/#comment-498463 Sat, 23 Mar 2024 15:02:31 +0000 https://seniorplanet.org/?p=166704#comment-498463 Hi have just read these comments and I must say saying or telling my husband what I want is a great help as it’s not always the same,, things like go slower, not so hard, touch me lightly, slow hand
Also my gynae gave me a low dose of testosterone cream as my level was low it helps also I think i need to ask about doing something more for him to enjoy,, we are 82 and 72 respectivly

]]> By: Diana https://seniorplanet.org/articles-joan-no-climax/#comment-498429 Sat, 23 Mar 2024 07:01:26 +0000 https://seniorplanet.org/?p=166704#comment-498429 In reply to Dave 85.

What is PIV?

]]> By: Anne https://seniorplanet.org/articles-joan-no-climax/#comment-498393 Sat, 23 Mar 2024 01:04:05 +0000 https://seniorplanet.org/?p=166704#comment-498393 Another option is to show him in writing. There lots of blogs and articles out there, including Joan’s writings that talk about what is needed. Let him read those. MOST men go for the genitals way too fast!!! Let him know that’s common, but it’s NOT what we women want or need. Start from the outer edges, the hands, arms, face, shoulders. SLOWLY and gently work your way, caressing and fondling, towards the center of the body. Slow down, and then slow down some more…

]]> By: Dave 85 https://seniorplanet.org/articles-joan-no-climax/#comment-498077 Wed, 20 Mar 2024 11:19:15 +0000 https://seniorplanet.org/?p=166704#comment-498077 Ah Joan, been there and we both agonized silently as to how we would overcome this obstacle. My partner was/is similar to this 74 year old widow. Eventually , we incorporated the use of a sex toy and after talking at length about how it was not a threat to either of use, we cuddled and touched for quite a while then I would hold my lover while she pleasured herself to the point of orgasm. PIV would follow and we would both have mind blowing orgasms. But you have to talk first, very openly.

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