Comments on: Ask Joan: Stay or Go?

By: Glyn House

Glyn House — Mon, 23 Sep 2024 21:04:41 +0000

In reply to Carolyn. Hi Carolyn, not a good place to be and you have my deepest thoughts for your lonely situation. But I feel the best thing for you would be to take a lover, someone you can give to, and who can give you affection back. There are many good men out there who can take care of your emotional needs whilst you continue to live your life. Very best wishes and good luck.

By: Carolyn

Carolyn — Wed, 18 Sep 2024 14:14:54 +0000

As a 76 year old woman in a 30 year marriage that has had no sex for at least 15 years, I can understand the pain and frustration. We do not share the hatefulness expressed by these two people, but agree we should not have married. Why stay? Money. My income is what supports us both comfortably living together, but would not support us separately And in this state he would have right to half my retirement and savings, leaving me vulnerable for further care and living. Not so simple.

By: Jackie Tuesday

Jackie Tuesday — Wed, 18 Sep 2024 12:57:56 +0000

They’re both in the most difficult phase – the ‘should I stay or should I go’. And most often the answer is leave. It’s very difficult to leave but the best way to start is with small steps – start looking at different housing options, talk to close friends, family and therapist, start notes or pininterest dreamboard of the new life you want. Once you start often times opportunities begin to present themselves.

By: Jaime Grant

Jaime Grant — Tue, 17 Sep 2024 14:38:21 +0000

While neither person spoke of their financial situation here, it’s important to cover. Many stay because they cannot afford to leave. This is especially true now, when most major cities are no longer affordable to live in if you are starting over. Often, abusive partners have intentionally tied up assets to ensure a partner’s entrapment. And finally, research shows that leaving an abusive partner is one of the most vulnerable moments in terms of increased violence. Heads up to your readers.

By: Linda Kirkman

Linda Kirkman — Tue, 17 Sep 2024 05:37:59 +0000

Change is hard. Ending a relationship can bring many complications. Great suggestions , Joan re therapy as working on yourself is an essential part of the process.

By: Dave 85

Dave 85 — Mon, 16 Sep 2024 22:10:43 +0000

In my mind, there is no question as to what each of these two
very unhappy people should do. GET OUT NOW!
She says: “I am addicted.” To what…loneliness, abuse, unhappiness. Go find it, a good life is waiting for you.
He says : ” I know what I want to do. One woman makes me miserable and the other makes me happy.” Don’t wait….run, don’t walk, to some joy and pleasure you so well deserve.
To both of you, part without remorse and find the life you so deserve. Life is too short not to.